Chip’s B2B Tip #55 - Live or Memorex?

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B2B tip #55 - Hear me 'live' this week!
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Want to see for sure if I'm a real person - not some Internet avatar?

Click this link below and see for yourself.

I'll be doing a teleseminar where Ken McCarthy will interview me on 3/31. Click the link and get the details. Be sure to get access NOW before the call fills up!

http://www.thesystemseminar.com/interviews/tarver.html

© Chip Tarver
The B2B Relationship Pro
http://www.FirstContactSecrets.com
http://www.Free-Targeted-Traffic.com

Chip’s B2B Tip #54 - Locked Out?

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B2B tip #54: What do you do when you lock your keys in your car
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For those of you who have a car that can be unlocked by the remote button on your key ring:

If you lock your keys in the car, your spare keys are home, and you don't have "OnStar," - here's your answer to the problem!

If some one has access to the spare remote at your home, call them on your cell phone (or borrow one from someone if the cell phone is locked in the car, too!) Hold the cell phone about a foot from your car door and have the other person at your home press the unlock button, holding it near the phone on their end.

Your car will unlock.

Saves someone from having to drive your keys to you.

Distance is no object.

You could be hundreds of miles away, and if you can reach someone who has the other "remote" for your car, you can unlock the doors (or the trunk, or have the "horn" signal go off, or whatever!)

(A friend's Note - It worked fine! We tried it out and it unlocked our car over a cell phone! Distance doesn't seem to be a factor. )

© Chip Tarver
The B2B Relationship Pro
http://www.FirstContactSecrets.com
http://www.Free-Targeted-Traffic.com

Chip’s B2B Tip #53 - Leadership?

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B2B Tip 53 - Lead By Example?
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Here's an exercise to help you measure your own leadership skills against other well-known and well-established national leaders.

See how you measure up ...

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"Can you imagine working for a company that has a little more than 500 employees and has the following statistics:"

*29 have been accused of spousal abuse
* 7 have been arrested for fraud
* 19 have been accused of writing bad checks
*117 have directly or indirectly bankrupted at least 2 businesses
* 3 have done time for assault
* 71 cannot get a credit card due to bad credit
* 14 have been arrested on drug-related charges
* 8 have been arrested for shoplifting
* 21 are currently defendants in lawsuits
* 84 have been arrested for drunk driving in the last year

Can you guess which organization this is?

Give up yet?

It's the 535 members of the United States Congress.

(The same group of people who crank out hundreds of new laws each year designed to keep the rest of us in line. )

"You gotta pass this on....." (below is the permalink.)

http://www.firstcontactsecrets.com/blog/2005/03/chips-b2b-tip-53-leadership.htm

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Well - how did you do?

© Chip Tarver
The B2B Relationship Pro
http://www.FirstContactSecrets.com
http://www.Free-Targeted-Traffic.com

Chip’s B2B Tip #52 - The Most Powerful Force

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B2B Tip #52 - Love Is ...
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Yes - this is still off topic for my blog (or maybe not) ... but that's OK.

A dear friend of mine who shall remain un-named is suffering though the upcoming predetermined loss of a dear pet with which he's enjoyed 24 years.

This is not all that different from my loss of Paula, with whom I shared almost three wonderful and incredible years of love and joy. Our 3rd anniversary would have been 3/24/05.

He sent me an email stating his situation, and his understanding of how I must feel about Paula, and below is the response I sent him. His email is below my response ... (below) ...

You decide ... here's my response - verbatim - ...

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Ya know, Bro, we go through phases in life ...

From tiny and helpless ...

To young and footloose ...

To growing and fancy-free ...

To beginning to grasp our own existence ...

To becoming bullet-proof and invisible ...

To seeing we might make a difference here ...

To wondering if we really fit in ...

To seeing 'life' change with or without us ...

To wondering if we really understand it at all ...

To seeing our body not behave like it used to ...

To seeing others change, too ...

To having first experiences with death ... through losing important people (or pets) in our life ...

To being challenged to 'make a difference' with our "dash" ... our dash being that time between the day of our birth and the day of our death, such as 1954 - 2015 ...

To understanding - whether we're prepared or not - that we and everything around us could never in our wildest imaginations have be created by some nebulous 'big bang' ...

To grasping - in spite of our limited brains - the concept and fact that a Creator must have created everything in our lives that is good to and for us ...

To then seeing the dark side of this scenario in which 'something' is determined to defeat this plan and bring pain and death into our lives ...

To seeing pain and death for ourselves, first hand ...

To coming to the realization that we have to make a choice for ourselves to go through that pain and death, or have a way of escape ...

To understanding that the glue that holds it all together, the force that really binds us all - is love ... whether it's for a person or a pet ...

To realizing that perhaps we need to love more, and feel more love in return ... more often ... and with more fervor and determination ...

To understanding finally that we CAN make a difference, even if it's only by giving love to those around us, and understanding the true fulfillment of receiving love ...

And making someone's - anyone's - life better by the enrichment we give through love and caring ...

To wondering after they're gone if we did it well enough ... or could we have done it "better" ...

To learning to have grace for ourselves and not ask the questions we can't even answer ...

To trusting God to put us, and keep us, on His path - and help us fulfill His call on our life ...

To believing that we DID do a good job, not a bad job, at loving those around us ... and therefore DID use the most powerful force in the universe to touch another life, whether it's a person or a pet.

To being thankful for the time we had together, and refusing to torment ourselves for what might or might not have been ...

To focusing on what we'll now do to touch another life with the force of love ... and being very, very determined to on-purpose make the time to do that - even if it's just once a day ...

And making this a priority in our life right now.

Today.

No exceptions, and no excuses ...

To then adapting the mission to put someone else's needs above our own, in a lifestyle of new compassion and new vision ...

To understand that it's far more powerful and Blessed to give than it is to receive ...

Therefore making a real and measurable change in our own lives, and in the entire universe at large ...

Finally realizing that we DID make a difference.

And understanding that we DID achieve our calling ... just by touching another person (or pet) with love ...

The most powerful force in the universe.

I love you, buddy -
Chip


Here's his email to me (with his name removed) ...

At 08:09 PM 3/21/2005, you wrote:

Hi Chip,

I have a dear pet that I'm going to put to sleep later this week. She came out of surgery well, but at her age, she doesn't have enough reserves to fall back on.

She's been a great companion and I'll miss her. (jpg attached)

Anyway, this has hit me harder than I thought.

Considering she's nearly 24, can't say she didn't live a full long life. Yet, this made me think of what you've had to go through, and all this has stirred my own fears of my mortality.

It will happen to all of us sooner or later.

That doesn't make it any easier, especially when it's sooner, right?

I think what we can do, in times like these, is be there for each other. No magic words necessary just knowing that someone cares and wants the best for you is more than enough.

So if I'm a bit flaky and unfocused (and down) you know why.

Name Deleted

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That's right, Bro.

Knowing that someone cares about you is the most powerful feeling in the universe, and has the power to change people and lives (and nations.)

© Chip Tarver
The B2B Relationship Pro
http://www.FirstContactSecrets.com
http://www.Free-Targeted-Traffic.com

Chip’s B2B Tip #51 - Grandpa's Hands

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B2B Tip #51 - Off Topic
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Hi -

This is my first post since Valentine's Day. I'm still recovering from the wreck. The Big Event was 6 weeks ago today. Our 3rd anniversary would have been coming this week on 3/24/05.

I miss Paula beyond description, but know I'll see her again some day.

Here's another thought-provoking story. Yes - I know it's still off-topic for a B2B Blog, but I'll get back into the normal routine soon. I have to do that to keep recovering.

When you get knocked down, always get back on that horse again. You can never lose till you quit. Perhaps we'll never know why bad things happen to good people ...

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Here's the Grandpa's Hands story ...

Grandpa's Hands!

Grandpa, some ninety plus years, sat feebly on the patio bench. He didn't move, just sat with his head down staring at his hands. When I sat down beside him he didn't acknowledge my presence and the longer I sat I wondered if he was OK.

Finally, not really wanting to disturb him but wanting to check on him at the same time, I asked him if he was OK. He raised his head and looked at me and smiled. "Yes, I'm fine, thank you for asking", he said in a clear, strong voice.

"I didn't mean to disturb you, grandpa, but you were just sitting here staring at your hands and I wanted to make sure you were OK." I explained to him.

"Have you ever looked at your hands he asked. I mean really looked at your hands?"

I slowly opened my hands and stared down at them. I turned them over, palms up and then palms down. No, I guess I had never really looked at my hands as I tried to figure out the point he was making.

Grandpa smiled and related this story:

"Stop and think for a moment about the hands you have, how they have served you well throughout your years. These hands, though wrinkled, shriveled andweak have been the tools I have used all my life to reach out and grab and embrace life.

They braced and caught my fall when as a toddler I crashed upon the floor.They put food in my mouth and clothes on my back. As a child my mother taught me to fold them in prayer. They tied my shoes and pulled on my boots.

They dried the tears of my children and caressed the love of my life. They held my rifle and wiped my tears when I went off to war. They have been dirty, scraped and raw, swollen and bent.

They were uneasy and clumsy when I tried to hold my newborn son. Decorated with my wedding band they showed the world that I was married and loved someone special. They wrote the letters home and trembled and shook when I buried my parents and spouse and walked my daughter down the aisle.

Yet, they were strong and sure when I dug my buddy out of a foxhole and lifted a plow off of my best friend's foot. They have held children, consoled neighbors, and shook in fists of anger when I didn't understand. They have covered my face, combed my hair, and washed and cleansed the rest of my body.

They have been sticky and wet, bent and broken, dried and raw. And to this day when not much of anything else of me works real well these hands hold me up, lay me down, and again continue to fold in prayer. These hands are the mark of where I've been and the ruggedness of my life.

But more importantly it will be these hands that God will reach out and take when he leads me home. And with my hands He will lift me to His side and there I will use these hands to touch the face of Christ."

I will never look at my hands the same again. But I remember God reached out and took my grandpa's hands and led him home. When my hands are hurt or sore or when I stroke the face of my children and wife I think grandpa. I know he has been stroked and caressed and held by the hands of God.

I, too, want to touch the face of God and feel his hands upon my face ...

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Bless you -
Chip
3-19-05